Ch 8: Danger of Social Transition
-trans ideology’s spread through websites, social media, and peer groups, but schools are perhaps the most influential
-social transition is the public adoption of a new gender identity, including: new name, pronouns, alternating one’s presentation such as clothing, hairstyle, make-up, etc…
-social transition also includes use of opposite sex bathrooms
-social transition also includes chest binding and genital tucking
-schools have adults that endorse the child’s belief he or she is in the wrong body
-schools approve a child lives a double life, one at school and another at home, while socially transitioning
***Social Transition is also called Social Affirmation
-it is Orwellian term because what it affirms is your child’s rejection of their body and their mental reality
Affirmation:
-sounds like it has a positive connotation, but ideologues chose that word as a strategic move
-affirming your child seems kind and loving
- It is not kind or loving to validate an untruth
-adults have a responsibility to represent reality
-if you validate your son’s girl identity, you agree that his body is wrong
-you confirm the disconnect between his mind and his physical reality
-child runs the show, parent steps aside
-the child’s attention seeking behaviors fulfilled as the adults are making big changes for the child
-the parent agrees the child knows best who he is, what he needs, and you inform everyone else in his life to follow his lead
-the child feels empowered and has a turbo-charged self-esteem (a temporary high)
-Social transitioning rewires a child’s mind
***Neuroplasty
-thinking, behavior, and experience alter brain microstructure
-the brain is constantly rewiring–it’s structure is changing–in response to life experiences
-social affirmation affects the wiring of the brain making it warped like an eating disorder
-opposite-sex identity makes it more likely the child will remain dysphoric
-Dutch study found “affective cross-gender identification and a social role transition” were “associated with the persistence of childhood gender dysphoria
-Dr. Kenneth Zucker agreed that social transitioning is associated with persistent childhood gender dysphoria
***social transition is a big deal; it’s not a simple kindness or show of respect
Iatrogenic Persistence:
-Dr. Zucker calls social transition a psychosocial intervention “with the likely consequence of subsequent (lifelong) biomedical treatments (gender-affirming hormonal treatment and surgery)
-social transition of pre-pubertal children is a major, experimental, and controversial psychotherapeutic intervention that substantially changes outcomes
*** Interventions by schools and other institutions unqualified to implement any course of treatments
2014-the American Psychological Association (APA) warned:
1- premature labeling of gender identity should be avoided
2- early social transition should be approached with caution
3- adding that social transition might be challenging to reverse even if the person is no longer gender dysphoric
***social transition is not a neutral act but an active intervention because of the profound impact it has on a child’s psychology
Rehoming your child:
-rehoming used to apply to a pet, but it is now being applied to children
-student’s rights override parental rights
-rise of gender confusion during the pandemic lockdowns
-schools told staff they couldn't share what they discovered in secret with the say 13 year old unless the child consented
-school’s provide non-conforming gender support plans that involves a minor, school principal, school guidance counselor, and social worker (no parent is involved or ever notified)
-teachers secretly urging their students to socially transition and sharing their gender social transition, but never notifying parents of any of the content going on in their classrooms
***schools reprimanded staff who dared ask if the school expected them to lie to parents
-if staff refused to lie to parents they were fired
-use of message boards like Pride Liberation Project
***interestingly this site requires 18 and older or must be the parent or guardian of the minor to access resources
Erosion of Parent-Child Bond:
-gender evangelists drive a wedge between you and your child
-teens with strong emotional bonds with their parents fare better
-school facilities socially affirms a student’s gender identity without the parental consent encourages secrecy, distrust, and a double life (very unhealthy)
-this secrecy increases tension and conflict in the home
-an immature mind takes sides and finds the home unsafe, un-nurturing, and unsupportive
-an immature mind takes sides and finds school to be safe, nurturing, and supportive
****school counselors can provide transgender support sites and information without you ever knowing
The Stroop Effect
-effect demonstrates that brain functions is impacted when presented with a mismatched or incongruent stimulus
-social transitioning impacts they child knows including their peers
***when educators think they know better than you it also spreads through Child Protective Services and courts of law—-they have dangerous ideas
Lawyer’s Dangerous Ideas
-parent is reported to CPS as being an abuser
-CPS takes the accusation and agrees that “the parent didn’t affirm the new gender identity so the child will not get better living in the parent’s home-blames the parent for all of the child's mental woes about gender identity
-CPS charges the parent with “the child is neglected and not cared for”
***rejection of “affirming care” was medical neglect
Allegations Substantiated:
-CPS: Notification of Investigation Results
-parent is charged with emotional abuse and neglect is substantiated
-parents fight to see their child and court says no
-but foster care is using the parent’s health insurance to pay for gender affirming care
-parents forced into gender affirming therapy
Dangers of CPS:
-parents calling their child by their given name is emotional abuse so dire the child must be removed from the home
-refusing interventions that validate the child’s impossible identity is medical neglect
-courts step in as they know what is in “the best interest of the child”
-counselor and teachers are told only to testify on behalf of the parent who will support trans-gendering
-courts strongly consider the affirmation is in the best interest of the child
-courts strongly consider removing the child from the parent is nonconsenting to gender affirming care
–the parent must accept the child’s self-diagnosis and immediately use preferred pronouns and preferred names according to the articles of faith
Legislation:
-politics matter as legislation demonizes parents in bills
-bills pass that destroy the parent-child bond
-bills pass that promote disfigurement and sterilization of young people
-bills pass forcing parents to lie: to their child, themselves, family, community, and to the world
-bills pass forcing parents to sell their souls or be found guilty of emotional abuse and medical neglect
-a judge could then “rehome” you child
***every school, judge, lawyer, CPS agent is entrenched in radical gender ideology
Beware:
Glitter moms: usually LGBT or have an LGBT child; they imagine themselves as saviors of children from homes less rainbow-friendly than theirs
-school counselors can keep secrets from you
-social services
-medical clinicians, gender clinics
-legal institutions, judges,
-civil rights heroes
**transition fails to resolve suicidality
“We love our children more than any counselor, judge, or teacher. They have no business teaching our children what gender they are and certainly no business teaching them to keep secrets from their parents. Let us parents do our job. We know our children better than you do.” Parent
What should happen:
1-it requires schools to notify parents if their child asserts a gender different from his or her sex
2-prevents school counselors from withholding or encouraging minors to withhold information about their child’s gender identity
3-asserts that raising a child according to his or her biological sex may not be constructed as abuse
Mourning the Living:
2021
-secret parent support groups started popping up
-parents needed to connect with other families to tell each other we are not crazy
-parents sharing traumatic experiences
-parents so fearful that they went into hiding in an underground online support group using fake names
***the proponents of this destructive social movement, and the gender medical establishment, that’s disfiguring and sterilizing kids should be ashamed and hiding, not the parents
-parents have the right to be recognized and validated
-parents have felt at odds with the whole world
-families are paying the price for the entire medical profession, psychology, social work, counseling and radical ideologues
-doctors were wrong
-parents gut feelings were right
***travesty:
Parents have been betrayed by all: family, community, justice, legal systems, education, social services, medical systems, etc…AND CHURCHES!
Primary Personal Loss: The Child You Knew
-personality, name, bond, voice, physical recognition, and shared interests
Secondary Personal Losses:
-past being erased, future, trust, and stability
-Churches did not stand up for parents
-parents dealing with immense trauma and grief with nowhere to turn to gain sanity back
-like your trauma, your grief has been disenfranchised
More lies:
-”top surgery” is just a euphemism for breast amputation, a bilateral mastectomy
-”bottom surgery” is just a euphemism for metoidioplasty
-”genital reconstruction” is just a euphemism for a phalloplasties or a vaginoplasties
-”chest masculinity” is just a euphemism for female chest binding
-surgical solutions to rid emotional distress
-gender affirming hormones improves mental health
-want the truth follow the money
-there is a zero percent regret rate (not according to the ever growing numbers of detransitioners)
-gender affirming care prevents suicide
-breasts are despicable and disposable (this is a learned attitude)
More Truths:
2022- the Federal Trade Commission had complaints filed alleging they are engaging in aggressive and deceptive marketing to minors
-WPATH doesn’t encourage mental health evaluations, but fast tracks to gender affirming care
-binding the breast is not joyful, but causes extreme chest, rib, and back pain; binding makes the breast misshapen;
-removing breasts as a minor leads to trauma and grief ; rage at those responsible for misery (just as a detransitioner like Chloe Cole)
-countless young women have come forward with the shared grief over their lost breasts have had a mastectomies
-breast removal does not cure any dysphoria
“If you want breasts at a later point in life, you can go and get them”
-gender affirming interventions are not the model of physical and mental healthcare
-a detransitioner is a survivor of experimental transgender health care
***what’s missing from girls’ lives is a sense of awe for their biology
Life-long Patients:
***Follow the Money
-in order to affirm they must deny biological reality
-patients are not cured on an operating table
-their emotional struggles will be cured in a few hours
-puberty being blocked at a young age for a boy means the penis will not develop so will remain child-sixed
-feaux vaganias need to be dilated daily (for some every 6 hours)
-having genital surgery causes compromises to be able to urinate naturally
-urethra failure is often associated with phalloplasty so may need to have a catheter inserted
-gender surgeries can destroy the nerves that causes permanent numbness
-goal of phalloplasty is to pee standing up, but if the faux penis has complications the patient may not be able to pee at all
-on the other side is that due to numbness the patient has no idea the faux penis is peeing so the patient is wetting himself and may have lingering smell of urine
-faux penis can also be rejected like a organ transplant recipient
-rejection of the faux penis can also cause lifelong urinary tract infections
-pubic hairs grow in wrong places after rearrangement of sexual organs leading to infections, pus, and a putrid odor
-permanently removing hair deep inside the faux vagina is impossible so causes multiple infections
-removing the hair follicles must use painful electrolysis sessions requiring local anesthesia
-partial phallic loss if the faux penis does not maintain adequate blood flow, it cannot survive
-fistulas develop that are pathways between organs that should not exist
-feces exiting from the wrong orifice
Ex. rectovaginal fistula connects the anus to the vagina
Ex. vaginal fistula connects the vagina to organ like the bladder or bowel
-the faux vagina could get infected with a type of E.coli which can cause septic shock and organ failure
-the faux vagina takes tissue from the intestine/colon to help construct the vagina
-the colon is lined with mucus that help move feces down to the colon
-colonic mucus smells
No truth to informed consent:
-advice outcomes are hidden
-out of 490 women reported, 72% reported pelvic cramping following the initiation of testosterone
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***beyond mutilation of genitals and urinary incontinence, patients suffer from frequent pain, infections, bleeding, and no sexual functions
2021-WPATH was given a quality score of zero out of six, no longer awarded the golden standard of care (World Professional Association for Transgender Health)
-WPATH provides guidance advises hospitals, clinicians, and courts
-WPATH is presents itself as an unbiased science-based medical group
2022-WPATH Standard of Care = affirmation is the only solution for gender dysphoria
-health professionals provide instructions to minors on breast binding and penis tucking
-promotes making blockers, hormones, and surgery on demand
-counseling is recommended but not mandatory
-there is whole chapter dedicated to eunuchs (gender-nonconforming)
-normalizes sterilization
***the standards of care introduced a whole new sexual orientation
2022-phalloplasty review found ¾ of patients out of 1,731 experienced urethral fistulas and ¼ of the patients experienced urethral stricture
2022-phalloplasty including eleven studies found that ⅓ of patients developed serious complications
2022- found that ¾ of patients have problems with libido and ⅔ of patients experienced failure to orgasm
2022- 71% of patients in study reviews experienced pain during sex
2022- Reddit Demographic Survey-revealed 82% of detransitioners realized gender dysphoria was related to other issues
-underlying problems aren’t addressed so no may how much you change physically the problems will resurface
-sex reassignment surgery/gender affirming surgery = mechanical transformation
***What I really needed was therapy, not surgery
***After all of the operations, I still had emotional pain
***the gender-affirming industry only provides the benefits to patients
***the public are told that there is extremely low regret to transitioning
Detransitioners’ Advice:
1-Discuss gender with your child early
2-Get out of public schools
3-Get your child off the internet
4-Know who your child’s talking to–at school, online, everywhere
5-No social media, smart phones, GSA meetings, gender clinics
6-Love without affirming. No names, pronouns, binders
7-Validate feelings, not beliefs
8-Be vigilant
9-Don’t think it’s not happening in your area, because it is
What is your child being exposed to in school and in those school libraries (small list of examples)
-Bye, Bye, Binary (ages0-4)
-The Rainbow Parade (ages 2-5)
-True you: A Gender Journey (ages 4-8)
-Me and My Dysphoria Monster (ages 5-8)
-Gender Identity Workbook for teens (middle-high school book)
-Trans Teen Survival Guide (middle-high school book)
-The Prince and the Dressmaker (middle Grade Book)
-The Awesome Autistic Guide for Trans Teens (middle-high school book)
-Trans+: Love, Sex, Romance, and Being You (high school book)
-Let's Talk About It: The Teen's Guide to Sex, Relationships, and Being a Human (high school book)
-charts that promote the prevalence of so called “intersex”
-promotes gender identity as subjective
Know your rights:
-federal, state, and local district school policies or guidelines cannot infringe upon constitutional rights
-you have the right to opt-out your child from questionable instruction on topics such as sex education and gender identity that advances this ideology
-the supreme court has made it clear on parent’s right to control the education, upbringing, and healthcare of their child
-social affirmation should not be happening without your consent
-schools have to provide an opt-out option for your child
-know what is going on in your child’s school and do not be afraid to ask about sex education topics and gender ideology curriculum
-opt out of any school surveys
-put everything in writing
-contact an attorney
-if school pushes remember you do have your 4th amendment rights