Monday, October 27, 2025

You’re Teaching My Child What? By Miriam Grossman, M.D. : Chapter 2

 Chapter 2: Girls and Boys are Different 

SIECUS:

-recommends sex is consensual, non-exploitative, honest, pleasurable, and protected

-guidelines for “responsible sexual behavior”

-they omit the fact that sex with or without latex is a profound, lifelong consequences, and that girls are different from boys

-female brains is predisposed to yearn for connection, communication, and approval

-female chemistry promotes attachment and trust

-female wiring minimizes her partners shortcomings to take risks 

-females have a unique physiological vulnerability to intimate behavior

**her expectations can be wrong; rejection can be unbearable


Comprehensive Sex ED:

-means: “covering much; broad; all-inclusive”

-SIECUS’s Guidelines for Comprehensive Sex Education

-contraception, abortion, sexually transmitted infections, HIV/AIDS, sexual fantasies, masturbation, sexuality and media, and gender role stereotypes

-Guidelines:

We are all sexual from cradle to grave

We must celebrate the diversity of sexual expression

We must speak openly of these issues in the first years of life 

-sexuality is a central part of being human


Bikini Approach:

-At age five: girls and boys have many similarities and very few differences

-At age nine (4th grade): people receive unequal or negative treatment because of their gender

-In middle school: accepting gender role stereotypes can limit a person’s life

-In high school: gender role stereotypes can lead to problems for both men and women

Ex. poor body image, low aspirations, low paying jobs, relationship conflict, stress-related illnesses, anxiety about sexual performance, sexual harassment, and date rape 


Scent of a Man:

-pheromones are external messengers

-pheromones are made in the male underarm

-women respond to the smell of male pheromones 

-hormones are internal messengers; carried in the blood from one organ to another

Ex. stomach to brain = hungry, brain to bones = growth, testes to skin = hair growth & acne


Female brains differ from males:

-skilled at communication, observation, and processing of emotion

-adept in gathering information from faces and tone of voice

-connecting with others and having their approval are priorities early in life

-puberty matures the brain

-more intuitive and averse to interpersonal conflicts

-estrogen surges the brain thrives

-interpersonal connections strengthen

-language explodes (chatting for hours no problem)

-interconnections is her expertise

-teens have small amount of testosterone to help with growth of glands and ovaries

-hormones flux with the phases of menstrual cycles

-females feel self-confident and outgoing one day and then irritable and fat on another day

-surges of testosterone is 25 times stronger in male teens over female teens 

-females seek trust, sensitivity and non-sexual intimacy

-males hormones and testosterone levels overlook the vulnerability of females (not malicious but just different wiring)


The Cuddle Hormone:

“Don’t let a guy hug you unless you plan to trust him.” Dr. Brizendine, Neuropsychiatrist

-also termed as the hormone of love

-touching builds trust and attachment

-kissing is an intimate behavior strengthening bonds 

-Oxytocin-neuro-chemical messengers that promotes social bonds, a craving to have contact

-Oxytocin amps up the reward center and fuels attachment

-Oxytocin is released heavily during sexual bonding

-Oxytocin mixed with hormones is like liquid trust

-both mixed together can impair your judgment 

-what happens in the moment has long-term consequences

“Intimate behaviors break down emotional barriers, especially in women, increasing their vulnerability.”

-truth: the first thing children should learn about sexuality is we are hardwired for close, lasting attachments

-Lie: sexuality is about physical pleasure 

-truth: biological needs can be very intense 

-truth: having sex sends signals to the brain “Now I’m with someone special, so I can relax and trust this person, so I can love him or her.”

-comprehensive sex education promotes specific social agendas (unethical & hazardous)


***Biological truths have been omitted by the sex ed industry 


Sunday, October 26, 2025

You’re Teaching My Child What? By Miriam Grossman, M.D. : Chapter 1

 Chapter 1: Who’s Teaching Your Children?


Nation’s Conflict over Sex Education:

-the Battle over your child’s mind

-need to help students understand the concept of intimacy

-not just the mechanics but the risks

-people teaching your child are activists, promoting radical agendas at odds with your values 

-sex education is not about health–it’s a social movement

-redefines normal

-making laws that removes parent’s permission

-promoting a wider net of sexual partners

-familiarize kids with fringe behaviors

-provide links to adult only sites

-urge kids to join the fight for “social justice” changing the world one child at a time

-risky and bizarre behaviors and political agendas endorsed on sites about teen health and sexuality

Examples:

gURL.com

femmerotic.com

scarletletters.com


How do teens get to these sites?

-respected sex ed organizations

Sexuality Information and Education Council (SEICUS)

-flagship sex ed organization for nearly 50 years

-advocates for comprehensive sexuality education

-led effort to advance sexual and reproductive health on six continents

-claims to represent a neutral, ideology-free, common sense approach

-receives federal funding-agreement-Centers for Disease Control (CDC) and Prevention’s Division of Adolescent and School Health 


Planned Parenthood

-the nation’s leading sexual and reproductive health care advocate and provider

-believes we are sexual from the day we are born until the day we die 

-embraces abortion and birth control and reproductive healthcare

“We are sexual from the day we are born until the day we die.”


Advocates for Youth

“A bold voice and respected leader in the field of adolescent reproductive and sexual health.”

-established “reproductive health care clinics” near junior and senior high schools

-encourages and supports “young activists across the country and around the world.”

-their “Life Planning Education” places sex ed in the context of life skills such as communication and decision-making 

-claims sex education debate as being between ideology and science

-brings confused teens erotica to the Web

-endorsed Heather Corinna’s (radical feminist activist) anything goes, agenda driven website

“Children are sexual even before birth. Males can have erections while still in the uterus and some boys are born with an erection.”


The Kinsey Scale of Human Sexuality

-1940’s-1950’s, Alfred Kinsey, introduced a new model of human sexuality

-SIECUS institutionalized Kinsey’s model in the 1960’s

-Heather Corinna (radical feminist activist) became a recognized teen sexuality instructor followed Kinsey's model

-Kinsey was the master architect of a new model of human sexuality

-the model is based on his conviction that in modern society, traditional morality is irrelevant and destructive-basically Judeo-Christina teachings have it all wrong 

****”sexuality is not an appetite to be curbed.”

-he believed that monogamy is unnatural, but “human animals”

-Kinsey coined the term “pansexual”

-Kinsey believed that human natural state is free from social constraints that become sexually active early in life

-that we enjoy intercourse with both sexes and need to indulge in a variety of behaviors except fidelity

-Kinsey applauded practically every kind of sexual activity, but disapproved of sexual abstinence

-His model is based on his study of bugs as his trainings was not in student of human or psychology but training was in the classification of insects-expertise in wasps


Kinsey’s Pathology: (based on his biography)

-he experienced pleasure by inserting foreign objects like straws, pipe cleaners, pencils, and toothbrushes into his penis

-he removed his foreskin with a pocketknife

-he suspended himself in the air by a rope tied around his scrotum

-he was more than a masochist as his pathology went beyond the pursuit of pain and humiliation

-biography describes a grotesque, debilitating, dangerous obsession with sex

-he had an insatiable appetite and to his compulsive, self-destructive needs

-he enjoyed traumatizing his genitals to point that he needed hospitalization


Kinseyian highlights

-had a recording studio in his attic to film sexual encounters (wife, inner circle, staff members, graduate students, and their wives)

-his primary interest was in male sadomasochistic behavior 

-he was a sexual exhibitionist (he showed off his genitals, demonstrated masturbatory techniques)

-he was in favor of adult-child sexual contact (did not consider it as child molestation)

-for his research, he interviewed jailed pedophiles and sex offenders, male prostitutes, transvestites, sadists, and masochists 


***modern sex education derives from the personal philosophy of this man


Sexual Behavior: Psychologist Act emotionless without context, no meaning, no consequences, freedom from judgment, laws, moral restrictions, religious doctrine, be a human animal 


-no one is truly heterosexual or homosexual; heterosexuality is only “a result of social pressures which tend to force an individual into an exclusive pattern.”


“In father-daughter incest, the daughter's age makes all the difference in the world. THe older she is, the likelier it is that the experience will be a positive one. The best sort of incest of all, surprisingly enough, is that between a son and a mother who is really educating him sexually, and who then encourages him to go out with girls.” Kinsey associate and former SIECUS president Wardell Pomeroy


SIECUS Sex Information and Education Council

Planned Parenthood

Indiana University’s Kinsey Institute

Advanced Institute of Human Sexuality (Wardell Pomeroy)-awarded degrees in sexology

-use the ideology of Alfred Kinsey

-using materials from the Kinsey archives (films from the attic)


***a technique called “Sexual Attitude Restructuring (SAR) was created 

-students shown an onslaught of pornographic images: films and slides

-points sex is a behavior with no emotional or relationships

-SAR creator, Richardf Chilgren, on the SIECUS board in 1972


Death of Kinsey in 1956-followers:

Mary Calderone

-established the 1st modern sex education organization called the Sex Information and Education Council

-it is what we now know as SEICUS

-she was the director of Planned Parenthood before the creation of SEICUS

-she was crusading for social reform

-she found fault in sex education focusing on preventing pregnancy and venereal diseases (now called Sexually Transmitted Diseases=STD)


***core belief: Sexuality is an essential, life long aspect of being human and should be celebrated with respect, openness, and mutuality


Cornerstones of modern sex education:

1. Sexuality is our entire selves, influences us in every way, and encompasses everything

-in education sex ed (sexuality) can be tied to all subjects like English class: tied in with communication skills

-Planned Parenthood recommended book: Teaching about Sexuality and HIV

-equates sex to a hug

“You are not just being sexual by having inercourse. You are being sexual when you throw your arms around your grandpa and give him a hug.”

-kids taught to believe that sexuality is “who they are,” “their entire selves,” from “womb to tomb”


2. The more information the better, and the earlier your small children get it, the better

-planned parenthood claims there is no such thing as too much information so talking about sexuality is best started from the time the child is born

-by age five, they believe children need to know  how a baby gets in and gets out of a woman’s body as well as basic facts o HIV/AIDS


Advocates for Youth:

-advises parents to help six-to eight-year-old children develop a healthy sexuality, families should give information even if the child doesn’t ask for it

-instruct parents to tell five year-olds about intercourse but organisms can wait until child finished kindergarten

-six-eight year-olds must have basic information about abortion, HIV/AIDS, wet dreams, and periods

-ex.  your daughter’s vulva with her in a calm and comfortable way

***a young child’s ability to think logically is limited-their minds are not ready


 3. Anything Goes

-no judgment allowed

-distort sexuality until tis normal

-planned parenthood tells parents to tell a child being different is normal

Book: A Family Resource on: Sex and Sexuality

-it identifies a variety of relationships: monogamous, open, or group sex, one night stands, etc..

Book: Go Ask Alice

“S/M pushes the boundaries between pleasure and pain” and assures them it’s “absolutely normal”

-planned parenthood claims to promote “a common sense approach to women’s health and well-being”

-anything goes is the most bizarre, depraved behaviors have become just another thing for them to try


4. Children have the “right” to question their parents’ ideas about sex, to explore their sexuality, and to develop their own values. And parents have the duty to support them in their quest. 

-sex quests like video games

-parents are told not to lecture or judge

-parents are not to impose your values

-parents do not interfere with our teen’s decisions unless instructing them about “protection”

***Sex is your child’s journey so your kid controls making decision on taking blockers and chopping off body parts