Monday, October 27, 2025

You’re Teaching My Child What? By Miriam Grossman, M.D. : Chapter 2

 Chapter 2: Girls and Boys are Different 

SIECUS:

-recommends sex is consensual, non-exploitative, honest, pleasurable, and protected

-guidelines for “responsible sexual behavior”

-they omit the fact that sex with or without latex is a profound, lifelong consequences, and that girls are different from boys

-female brains is predisposed to yearn for connection, communication, and approval

-female chemistry promotes attachment and trust

-female wiring minimizes her partners shortcomings to take risks 

-females have a unique physiological vulnerability to intimate behavior

**her expectations can be wrong; rejection can be unbearable


Comprehensive Sex ED:

-means: “covering much; broad; all-inclusive”

-SIECUS’s Guidelines for Comprehensive Sex Education

-contraception, abortion, sexually transmitted infections, HIV/AIDS, sexual fantasies, masturbation, sexuality and media, and gender role stereotypes

-Guidelines:

We are all sexual from cradle to grave

We must celebrate the diversity of sexual expression

We must speak openly of these issues in the first years of life 

-sexuality is a central part of being human


Bikini Approach:

-At age five: girls and boys have many similarities and very few differences

-At age nine (4th grade): people receive unequal or negative treatment because of their gender

-In middle school: accepting gender role stereotypes can limit a person’s life

-In high school: gender role stereotypes can lead to problems for both men and women

Ex. poor body image, low aspirations, low paying jobs, relationship conflict, stress-related illnesses, anxiety about sexual performance, sexual harassment, and date rape 


Scent of a Man:

-pheromones are external messengers

-pheromones are made in the male underarm

-women respond to the smell of male pheromones 

-hormones are internal messengers; carried in the blood from one organ to another

Ex. stomach to brain = hungry, brain to bones = growth, testes to skin = hair growth & acne


Female brains differ from males:

-skilled at communication, observation, and processing of emotion

-adept in gathering information from faces and tone of voice

-connecting with others and having their approval are priorities early in life

-puberty matures the brain

-more intuitive and averse to interpersonal conflicts

-estrogen surges the brain thrives

-interpersonal connections strengthen

-language explodes (chatting for hours no problem)

-interconnections is her expertise

-teens have small amount of testosterone to help with growth of glands and ovaries

-hormones flux with the phases of menstrual cycles

-females feel self-confident and outgoing one day and then irritable and fat on another day

-surges of testosterone is 25 times stronger in male teens over female teens 

-females seek trust, sensitivity and non-sexual intimacy

-males hormones and testosterone levels overlook the vulnerability of females (not malicious but just different wiring)


The Cuddle Hormone:

“Don’t let a guy hug you unless you plan to trust him.” Dr. Brizendine, Neuropsychiatrist

-also termed as the hormone of love

-touching builds trust and attachment

-kissing is an intimate behavior strengthening bonds 

-Oxytocin-neuro-chemical messengers that promotes social bonds, a craving to have contact

-Oxytocin amps up the reward center and fuels attachment

-Oxytocin is released heavily during sexual bonding

-Oxytocin mixed with hormones is like liquid trust

-both mixed together can impair your judgment 

-what happens in the moment has long-term consequences

“Intimate behaviors break down emotional barriers, especially in women, increasing their vulnerability.”

-truth: the first thing children should learn about sexuality is we are hardwired for close, lasting attachments

-Lie: sexuality is about physical pleasure 

-truth: biological needs can be very intense 

-truth: having sex sends signals to the brain “Now I’m with someone special, so I can relax and trust this person, so I can love him or her.”

-comprehensive sex education promotes specific social agendas (unethical & hazardous)


***Biological truths have been omitted by the sex ed industry 


Sunday, October 26, 2025

You’re Teaching My Child What? By Miriam Grossman, M.D. : Chapter 1

 Chapter 1: Who’s Teaching Your Children?


Nation’s Conflict over Sex Education:

-the Battle over your child’s mind

-need to help students understand the concept of intimacy

-not just the mechanics but the risks

-people teaching your child are activists, promoting radical agendas at odds with your values 

-sex education is not about health–it’s a social movement

-redefines normal

-making laws that removes parent’s permission

-promoting a wider net of sexual partners

-familiarize kids with fringe behaviors

-provide links to adult only sites

-urge kids to join the fight for “social justice” changing the world one child at a time

-risky and bizarre behaviors and political agendas endorsed on sites about teen health and sexuality

Examples:

gURL.com

femmerotic.com

scarletletters.com


How do teens get to these sites?

-respected sex ed organizations

Sexuality Information and Education Council (SEICUS)

-flagship sex ed organization for nearly 50 years

-advocates for comprehensive sexuality education

-led effort to advance sexual and reproductive health on six continents

-claims to represent a neutral, ideology-free, common sense approach

-receives federal funding-agreement-Centers for Disease Control (CDC) and Prevention’s Division of Adolescent and School Health 


Planned Parenthood

-the nation’s leading sexual and reproductive health care advocate and provider

-believes we are sexual from the day we are born until the day we die 

-embraces abortion and birth control and reproductive healthcare

“We are sexual from the day we are born until the day we die.”


Advocates for Youth

“A bold voice and respected leader in the field of adolescent reproductive and sexual health.”

-established “reproductive health care clinics” near junior and senior high schools

-encourages and supports “young activists across the country and around the world.”

-their “Life Planning Education” places sex ed in the context of life skills such as communication and decision-making 

-claims sex education debate as being between ideology and science

-brings confused teens erotica to the Web

-endorsed Heather Corinna’s (radical feminist activist) anything goes, agenda driven website

“Children are sexual even before birth. Males can have erections while still in the uterus and some boys are born with an erection.”


The Kinsey Scale of Human Sexuality

-1940’s-1950’s, Alfred Kinsey, introduced a new model of human sexuality

-SIECUS institutionalized Kinsey’s model in the 1960’s

-Heather Corinna (radical feminist activist) became a recognized teen sexuality instructor followed Kinsey's model

-Kinsey was the master architect of a new model of human sexuality

-the model is based on his conviction that in modern society, traditional morality is irrelevant and destructive-basically Judeo-Christina teachings have it all wrong 

****”sexuality is not an appetite to be curbed.”

-he believed that monogamy is unnatural, but “human animals”

-Kinsey coined the term “pansexual”

-Kinsey believed that human natural state is free from social constraints that become sexually active early in life

-that we enjoy intercourse with both sexes and need to indulge in a variety of behaviors except fidelity

-Kinsey applauded practically every kind of sexual activity, but disapproved of sexual abstinence

-His model is based on his study of bugs as his trainings was not in student of human or psychology but training was in the classification of insects-expertise in wasps


Kinsey’s Pathology: (based on his biography)

-he experienced pleasure by inserting foreign objects like straws, pipe cleaners, pencils, and toothbrushes into his penis

-he removed his foreskin with a pocketknife

-he suspended himself in the air by a rope tied around his scrotum

-he was more than a masochist as his pathology went beyond the pursuit of pain and humiliation

-biography describes a grotesque, debilitating, dangerous obsession with sex

-he had an insatiable appetite and to his compulsive, self-destructive needs

-he enjoyed traumatizing his genitals to point that he needed hospitalization


Kinseyian highlights

-had a recording studio in his attic to film sexual encounters (wife, inner circle, staff members, graduate students, and their wives)

-his primary interest was in male sadomasochistic behavior 

-he was a sexual exhibitionist (he showed off his genitals, demonstrated masturbatory techniques)

-he was in favor of adult-child sexual contact (did not consider it as child molestation)

-for his research, he interviewed jailed pedophiles and sex offenders, male prostitutes, transvestites, sadists, and masochists 


***modern sex education derives from the personal philosophy of this man


Sexual Behavior: Psychologist Act emotionless without context, no meaning, no consequences, freedom from judgment, laws, moral restrictions, religious doctrine, be a human animal 


-no one is truly heterosexual or homosexual; heterosexuality is only “a result of social pressures which tend to force an individual into an exclusive pattern.”


“In father-daughter incest, the daughter's age makes all the difference in the world. THe older she is, the likelier it is that the experience will be a positive one. The best sort of incest of all, surprisingly enough, is that between a son and a mother who is really educating him sexually, and who then encourages him to go out with girls.” Kinsey associate and former SIECUS president Wardell Pomeroy


SIECUS Sex Information and Education Council

Planned Parenthood

Indiana University’s Kinsey Institute

Advanced Institute of Human Sexuality (Wardell Pomeroy)-awarded degrees in sexology

-use the ideology of Alfred Kinsey

-using materials from the Kinsey archives (films from the attic)


***a technique called “Sexual Attitude Restructuring (SAR) was created 

-students shown an onslaught of pornographic images: films and slides

-points sex is a behavior with no emotional or relationships

-SAR creator, Richardf Chilgren, on the SIECUS board in 1972


Death of Kinsey in 1956-followers:

Mary Calderone

-established the 1st modern sex education organization called the Sex Information and Education Council

-it is what we now know as SEICUS

-she was the director of Planned Parenthood before the creation of SEICUS

-she was crusading for social reform

-she found fault in sex education focusing on preventing pregnancy and venereal diseases (now called Sexually Transmitted Diseases=STD)


***core belief: Sexuality is an essential, life long aspect of being human and should be celebrated with respect, openness, and mutuality


Cornerstones of modern sex education:

1. Sexuality is our entire selves, influences us in every way, and encompasses everything

-in education sex ed (sexuality) can be tied to all subjects like English class: tied in with communication skills

-Planned Parenthood recommended book: Teaching about Sexuality and HIV

-equates sex to a hug

“You are not just being sexual by having inercourse. You are being sexual when you throw your arms around your grandpa and give him a hug.”

-kids taught to believe that sexuality is “who they are,” “their entire selves,” from “womb to tomb”


2. The more information the better, and the earlier your small children get it, the better

-planned parenthood claims there is no such thing as too much information so talking about sexuality is best started from the time the child is born

-by age five, they believe children need to know  how a baby gets in and gets out of a woman’s body as well as basic facts o HIV/AIDS


Advocates for Youth:

-advises parents to help six-to eight-year-old children develop a healthy sexuality, families should give information even if the child doesn’t ask for it

-instruct parents to tell five year-olds about intercourse but organisms can wait until child finished kindergarten

-six-eight year-olds must have basic information about abortion, HIV/AIDS, wet dreams, and periods

-ex.  your daughter’s vulva with her in a calm and comfortable way

***a young child’s ability to think logically is limited-their minds are not ready


 3. Anything Goes

-no judgment allowed

-distort sexuality until tis normal

-planned parenthood tells parents to tell a child being different is normal

Book: A Family Resource on: Sex and Sexuality

-it identifies a variety of relationships: monogamous, open, or group sex, one night stands, etc..

Book: Go Ask Alice

“S/M pushes the boundaries between pleasure and pain” and assures them it’s “absolutely normal”

-planned parenthood claims to promote “a common sense approach to women’s health and well-being”

-anything goes is the most bizarre, depraved behaviors have become just another thing for them to try


4. Children have the “right” to question their parents’ ideas about sex, to explore their sexuality, and to develop their own values. And parents have the duty to support them in their quest. 

-sex quests like video games

-parents are told not to lecture or judge

-parents are not to impose your values

-parents do not interfere with our teen’s decisions unless instructing them about “protection”

***Sex is your child’s journey so your kid controls making decision on taking blockers and chopping off body parts


Sunday, October 19, 2025

October 19, 2025 Posted Thoughts on Am I owned by the government?

 Getting told I work for the government made my stomach twist into a knot. Another lecture on how to behave and a reminder of who I represent. Being a high school counselor is just one part of my identity. It is like I have to leave all the other pieces of myself at the door when I enter a public school. I Robot ready to clock in. Did my soul just die a bit by entering this cog of I own you so do not step out of line or else.


“I can’t believe I have to address unprofessional political attire.” What one thinks is political may not be the same meaning for the one wearing it. More than one educator has told me that a Turning Point shirt is now a political statement that has been banned from wearing as it is too offensive. That a person can be written up for wearing it. Colleagues turning in names for wearing a shirt they disagree with. I have colleagues who had hoped to get me in trouble and even looked forward to me being fired. Always seeming to be on one side of the debate.

I wonder if a teacher wearing a shirt with the one word, “freedom,” would have the same outward disgust and demand for persecution? Gossip spreads and eventually you find out who filed the complaint and what they had against you.

I watched the movie, “Truth and Treason,” and how these teens pushed against the ruling of the government in Germany under Hitler. They were beaten and brutalized. The youngest was sent to the guillotine. When he said, “don’t forget about me,” I thought what courage this 16 year-old had even when faced with death. Today we have people chanting “no more kings” or something like that, but if this were true then they would not be allowed to protest. They would end up in the same prison chamber beaten to a pulp like these young teenagers. We take for granted our freedom to complain about anything and everything.

I want out of the government owning me if that is what is expected. Get your kids out of public schools if this is the expectation because if they see me that way then you can imagine how they feel about you and your kids.

Read this on a post:
George Orwell (1903-1950) had a gift for cutting through illusions. Author of Animal Farm and 1984, he warned us of the dangers of propaganda, censorship, and blind conformity. This line, written in his essays, is a reminder of how deeply he valued free thought and education. For Orwell, the real danger was not just oppressive governments–but societies that stopped questioning, stopped learning, and became content with ignorance. His words still sting today, because they speak to a timeless truth: the survival of freedom depends on our willingness to think for ourselves.

“A generation of the unteachable is hanging upon us like a necklace of corpses” (George Orwell).

In the movie, the church puts up a sign “No Jews” even though they had been part of the congregation. The pastor couldn’t say it to their faces. As they are turned away, the other congregation entering the church say, “this is terrible, someone should do something about this” as they walk past the sign to enter the church.

Prayers, we are not those people. May we stand in what we know is right. May we reach out to help those being wronged. May we not stay silent. May we be the gap people need to know that they are not alone in any battle they are going through.

Blessings,

https://www.dreamsdontfade.com/ (updated a post on my blog and my website so check then out)

This song has power in its words! No Fear by Jon Reddick

I got enemies at every side
It ain't looking good, I ain't gonna lie
Arrows flying, devil's trying
To make me think I'm going down this time
You might think that I'd be afraid
Running scared with a shaken faith
But the God I know says it ain't over
The God I know is gonna make a way

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O9ajtA9psIQ&list=RDO9ajtA9psIQ&start_radio=1

You’re Teaching My Child What? By Miriam Grossman, M.D. : Introduction

 You’re Teaching My Child What? By Miriam Grossman, M.D.


Introduction: Shocked 

“Sex is a serious matter–especially for girls. That a single encounter can have profound, life-long consequences”


-teaching biology factually leaves out sex training vs. not assuming everyone is  heterosexual; you should be less hetero-normative 

-sex training leaves out the mental and physical consequences 

(ex. Highest rates of sexually transmitted infections are among the gay and bisexuals)

-Why the rise of HPV? Abnormal pap smears-risk of developing cervical cancer

-not asked: was the pleasure worth it? Is the infection worth it? HIV or STD or pregnancy

-does sex trump everything, even health?


Back to the Source: 2008

-1 out of 4 sexually active girls will contract a sexually transmitted disease by age 2025

-Center for Disease Control stats was shocking to parents and health experts


Pandemic: 3.2 million American girls have an STD

Direct Consequences to their vision and ideals:

-these groups claim to provide “comprehensive access” to “accurate” sex education using curricula, guides, and websites

-promiscuity, experimentation, and fringe behaviors are encouraged 

-at all ages, sexual freedom is a “right”

-it is an issue of social justice 

-Sexually Information and Education Council of the United States (SIECUS) 

-Advocates For Youth (AFY)

-Planned Parenthood


“Sex education consists of a vast network of programs with Planned Parenthood, Advocates for Youth, and SIECUS at its center. Consequently, every parent should check their child’s school curricula for the full picture.”


-Planned Parenthood: “Take Care Down There.”

-Planned Parenthood: “How Babies are Made.”

-SIECUS website: gURL.com

-best selling book “Deal with It,” provides instructions on “giving a blow job,” “going down on a girl,”  and 3 most popular positions for intercourse

-experts online want your daughters to become sadomasochisms

“The pleasure outweighs the pain”

-SIECUS & AFY websites: www.positive.org (under guise of safe guarding health and well-being)



Selective Science:

-PP and SIECUS-claim neutrality and accuse the religious right for the conflict instead of inserting medical facts

-Hicks: sciences-neurobiology, endocrinology, and histology 

-Comprehensive Sexuality Education = pseudoscience and crackpot ideology 

-Educators censoring medially accurate, up to date science, and argue that kids need more than a “plumbing lesson”


SIECUS and Planned Parenthood:

-use philosophies of the sexologist, Alfred Kinsey (****whose works have been debunked)

-use of Eugenics advocate Margaret Sanger 

-Hugh Heffner

-Gloria Steinem

**Sex education became about social change and not health

**Sex education became a cultural revolution, not the eradication of disease

**Sex education teaches women and men are just alike ideologically


Teens:

-teens brains rely on gut feelings not reason

-neuroscientists identify distinct differences between a “male brain” and a “female brain”

-provide them with condoms and pills and they'll make smart decisions


What Sex Ed is Really All About:

-the goal of sexual education is no longer to prevent pregnancy and disease

-no longer health, science, or parental authority

-curricula is rooted in sexual freedom ideology

-Successful curriculum encourages students to develop their own values

-to not blindly accept those of their families or community

-to gain wisdom through open-mindedness and tolerance

-students become wide awake and open to multiples perspectives

-encourages kids to question what they’ve been taught at home and at church

-to question the ethics and morality and twist them for radical social change


Comprehensive Sex Ed:

-sex education should be taught early say the experts to parents

-teach preschoolers that each of us is sexual from cradle to the grave

-that “sexual expression” is one of our basic needs

-to have a positive body concept you should include penis and vagina

-explain that touching a body part may feel good when touched

-inform 5 year-olds that “everyone has sexual thoughts and fantasies” and that “people experience sexual pleasure in a number of different ways”

-teach kids about HIV before their ABC’s

**PP says 3rd grade is the time to find out about wet dreams, masturbation, rape, and sex-work

**9-12 year-olds should understand that male and female are not defined solely by chromosomes or genitalia

-everyone has an “internal sense” of his or her identity 

-Book recommended: Ask Alice

-has information about drugs, alcohol, diet, depression, and other health issues

-included to learn is how to purchase adult products by phone, arrange a threesome, and stay safe during sadomasochistic sex play

***websites recommended to kids teaching them to explore their sexuality

-Truth: girls are anatomically more vulnerable to sexually transmitted diseases than boys

-Truth: they gloss over vital facts of contracting a sexually transmitted disease (treatable, incurable, and fatal)


***passing out condoms doesn’t protect the heart or emotional distress 


-condoms gives a false sense of security

-latex provides no protection against emotional distress 


Priority:

-our nation’s sex educators priority is to promote sexual freedom

-not to prevent infections or emotional distress 

-this epidemic of teaching more kids they are sexual from womb to tomb 

-this epidemic encourages more teens to question their families’ values

-this epidemic doesn’t want parent involvement of even to know what is being taught


Wake Up, America:

-sex education doesn’t promote 3 things: hard science and abstinence and parental knowledge

-the curricular claim: it is science-based, age-appropriate, non-judgmental, up-to-date, and medically accurate 

-they believe they know better than parents

-they know what is best for your kids, so trust them as the “experts” and ignore your gut feelings

-their steeped ideology permeates with extremism

-the message is not the same for students as it is for parents

-they provide a sex-positive message

-they teach sexuality is a life-long adventure

-they teach that the freedom to explore and express their sexuality is a sacred “right”


Not provide:

-provide truth to make informed decisions

-dismisses medically accurate fundamentals of child development

-omit critical findings of neurobiology, gynecology, and infectious disease 

-distorts  psychological distress associated with teen sex

-omit sexual behavior is profound and consequential, and we reap immense benefits from self-restraint

**whatever you do do not teach abstinence

***Parents should trust their common sense, gut feelings, and traditional values


Student Reveal their Secrets:

-I lied to my parents

-If only I’d known

-If only someone had told me


Battleground:

-our kid’s minds and values

-sexually transmitted diseases are out of control

-the lie that exploration is beneficial

-regret has become our youth’s crisis

-the lie of putting their entire trust in a vaccine or a piece of latex

-time to expose SIECUS and Planned Parenthood curricula

-counter destructive messages


***Keep kids free of unnecessary physical and emotional distress